Will you answer the dreaded question? Or will you skip over this post just at the sight of the “V” word? Well, here goes nothing. . .
How was your Valentine’s Day?
That question seems to be met with sly smiles or streamed tears to most of us females. I don’t have brothers, but best I can tell from my guy friends– to males, Valentine’s day is spent smoozing a lady on your pretty penny or it’s a day spent laughing at guys smoozing and spending their pretty pennies.
It is a holiday that is built and continued on double standards of happiness, but why not ride the waves of the day? Unlike high school (dated the same fella), every year I have been in college, my dating situation has changed. Some years, I have had great dates. Others, I have had great pamper days and one year, I actually forgot about the holiday!
Here is a bit of philosophy for you from someone who has never taken a philosophy class: why prepare for a holiday that was built for unprepared people in relationships? Why would we need a holiday recognizing love & intimacy in relationships? Sure, maybe it is good and right to recognize the people we care most for. Sure, maybe it is correct to publicly express one’s emotions with balloons, over-sized bears, and fancy red roses.
But why have a day quite literally spent on expressing feelings when each day should prove the worth of one’s heart? Are we so caught up in our own lives that we can’t remember to express authenticity to our loved ones when the feelings arise? We prepare in advance for one day a year, yet we continuously act unprepared to express the meaningful words we all crave daily..
I am like everyone else. I want a Valentine’s day spent with my boyfriend with a rose in my hand as we arrived at that fancy restaurant. I want to wear the pretty dress. I want his smile on mine. But is one day worth the bill?
My college operates on a budget and I bet ‘his’ does too, so perhaps we can change this day up a bit next year. What if we all minimized the gifts, pass by the over-priced chocolates, and engaged the real meaning of the holiday: expressing our hearts.
At the end of the day, do the fancy earrings, dinners, and flowers add to the depth of the relationship or the debt in the wallet? I support the meaning of the holiday, but it is time to change up the message!
Express hearts. Not Flowers.
Praise the Lord & pass the peaches,